“We cannot think of being acceptable to others until we have first proven acceptable to ourselves.”
― Malcolm X
― Malcolm X
We are all chasing something that we feel will make us whole and complete. Whether we are chasing money, a career, love, freedom, etc. and during those times we question ourselves and our abilities while we are in pursuit of these things. So I really want to blog about knowing your self-worth.
“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with.”
― Wayne W. Dyer
― Wayne W. Dyer
One of the biggest mistakes we make is underestimating the power of the mind and its effect on us. How you perceive yourself is everything. If you look at yourself as someone that can’t get things done and always depending on others, then you’ll be stuck in that same dusty rut. The mind is telling you that you can’t, but your gut is telling you to go for the gusto. But the mind always wins because it’s giving you the easy route, the devils route. That poor man’s attitude aka low self-esteem reflects outward even though it is generated from within. People can sense that and two things are going to happen. They will either use you for their own gain or will not deal with you due to that negative energy you have infecting their space.
No one wants to be used so it’s important to practice self-love and no I’m not talking about you haven’t had a mate in GOD knows how long so you light a candle and blow the dust off that gag dvd your friends got you years ago from Dr. John’s adult store. I am talking about loving yourself inside and out. Self-love is associated with narcissism, being conceited, or whatever you call it…but at the end of the day who’s going to love you if you don’t love yourself? GOD of course, but are you going to wait until you reach those pearly gates? That’s just waiting time on this beautiful earth…waiting to die. I’m not telling you to be on Kanye’s level when it comes to self-love, but if you can back it up…throw humble out the window and let the world see the gifts that you’re bringing.
Do not and I repeat DO NOT try and project a fake image that you think people want. You cannot live behind a mask and not sweat when the lights shine on you for more than 15 minutes. Do not build your self-worth using someone else’s bricks. Stay true and set the trend. Always trust your gut.
“My circle’s small and my circle’s tight, with a couple Negus that ain’t scared of heights.” –Double
There is nothing wrong with seeking advice from others, just take the advice with a grain of salt. Especially, when you’re dealing with people that have a lot of regrets. They can give sound advice, but also try to live vicariously through you or even try to have you live out their dreams that they were too scared to go for…so be careful. I always stress this: your team should be just as ambitious as you, if not they should be bringing something to the table. And if they are not bringing anything to the table then they do not deserve a seat. Keep poisonous people from around you, yo. The same goes for your mate, do not look to your mate to determine your self-worth. It’s SELF-worth, so you’re not looking outside to build it.
So you know what not to do, but what do you do to build your self-worth? Pep talks are an amazing way to build self-worth and remind yourself of how dope you are. So look in the mirror and kick some positivity to yourself. You have to prove to yourself that you matter and how do you do that? You accept responsibility for your circumstances. The position that you are in now, is the result of the choices you’ve made and your thought process. Once you’ve accepted the your circumstances, then you can take the appropriate steps to change those circumstances. Stop placing blame on outside entities, that’s taking the easy route. Your situation has been affected by the government, your parents, blah blah blah…but if you keep thinking that, you will always feel as if someone else is controlling your life. And when you feel like that, you don’t value yourself and you just accept your circumstances.
Once you take that first step to change your circumstances, you have to practice resiliency. You can’t give up once you start, because you might spiral down even further. Power through the setbacks. Opportunities come your way, you have to dive in head first and trust your abilities and talent. Stepping in to unfamiliar territory and thriving is always good for the soul. Pleas value you yourself, I don’t care if you’re flipping burgers for money and sleeping on a pallet in your grandma’s basement. You are bringing something to the world and you need to realize that. Always value you your time, don’t let anyone or anything waste your time. We don’t have much of it, but the time we do have is valuable. And the most important thing you can do is live in the present. The worst feeling is that Sunday night before your Monday workday. You’re already thinking about how bad Monday is going to be, but that’s projection. You’re already setting that Monday up for failure, fuck Garfield and his lasagna eating Monday hating ass. Embrace your Monday, but on that Sunday night…just enjoy that Sunday night. Live in the present.
That’s really all I can say when it comes to knowing and gaining your self-worth. If you feel yourself getting down, read this blog over and over again and practice what I’m preaching. Much love and remember #WeWorking